"Guilt-free parenting is only possible when we move from a worldly perspective to a godly perspective. The parenting prescription of the world places people in the position of gods. Parents create children, define their morality, manipulate their children's lives and therefore must take full responsibility for the end result. The world screams it's own 'wisdom' at moms, telling them to do more, to be more and to worry more. The ultimate goal of motherhood is to design a happy and productive person... In stark contrast, godly wisdom begins by fearing God, acknowledging that He alone is the author of life - ours and our children's. He has placed our children in our homes for His purpose and plan... motherhood is a servant's call, not to our children but to our Savior... He has not called us to raise perfect children, but to be faithful with the influence He has given us. Above all, He wants us to depend upon His wisdom and entrust our children into His care as we seek as mothers to glorify Him."
Questions for personal reflection:
- What are some things you have felt or feel guilty about as a mother?
- When you 'fail' as a mom, does the resulting guilt you feel draw you closer to dependence uopn God or push you away from Him?
- Do you ever feel like you have to be perfect as a mom? If so, how does this impact your parenting?
Digging for Wisdom:
- What does Jesus' death on the cross mean for those who trust in Him for forgiveness? (Rom 3:23-24)
- What is the difference between the guilt of an unbeliever and the godly sorrow of a believer? (2 Cor 7:9-11)
- If Christ has taken away our guilt and punishment, we have no reason to feel guilty. We don't parent to avoid punishment or to achieve perfection. So, what should be our focus and motivation in motherhood? (Micah 6:8)
- There are three causes of guilty feelings, what should be our response to each of these: sin (Heb 10:15-23), weakness (Is 40:27-31), and false guilt (1 Cor 4:3-5).
We will meet this Thursday September 20th from 9.30 – 11.30am at 2/F Island ECC. Refreshments and childcare provided. Newcomers always welcome.